"'How are you doing?' he asked a friend who'd had some Love Troubles.
And the friend replied: 'Well, I have a few Thoughts & Feelings, but it'll take Time & Patience to work them out.'
At a loss, he paused & thought: 'How should I respond to such vagueness?' 
But aloud, he said: 'These things are tough--I'm here if you need me.'
Slowly, his friend nodded.
And as they walked away, both longed for a more 
Genuine Connection & wished for words that cut to the Heart of the Matter."
 
This comes from watching some of the men at both the core and edges of my life struggle to connect
with each other.